Bay Area Friends (BAF) is not a dating service and provides no personal ads. Occasionally someone will organize a Speed Dating Event, but otherwise, our events are not specifically for singles. That said, most BAF members are single and many members do meet people to date at BAF Events. Several people have even met their future spouse/partner after meeting at a BAF event!
Although the BAF Meetup Group is not appropriate for posting personal ads, there are many online dating services for people with herpes and other STDs, and some are listed below. Many of our members belong to both BAF and one of the below dating services.
Herpes Dating Online – Most Popular Herpes Dating Sites
(Reprinted with permission from DatingWithHerpes.org)
There are several popular Herpes Dating Sites that make it easy for you to talk to and date other singles with genital herpes. Even if you are not yet ready to date again, it can be very comforting and confidence building to see the profiles of the thousands of other single people with herpes who are attractive, interesting and probably more honest that many people on regular dating sites. DatingWithHerpes.org does NOT endorse any particular site or service – we just try to make good information available to you so you can choose the path that is best for you.
Below the first list of Herpes Dating Services is a list of Regular Online Dating Services where many people with herpes also date successfully.
Most Popular Herpes Dating Sites
PositiveSingles.com* (PS) is the largest online dating service for people with Herpes and other STDs. With tens of thousands of members, PositiveSingles is NOT exclusively for people with herpes. People with HPV, HSV-1, HSV-2, HIV, Hepatitis, and other STDs are served in the same searchable profile database, so you can select just to see profiles with HSV-1 and/or HSV-2 or HPV. PositiveSingles.com is one of the more expensive herpes dating services, but a lot of people sign up because there are many more profiles for people with herpes than any other site. You can sign up for free and later decide if you want to pay to upgrade in order to email or reply to other members.
PositiveSingles.com – Main Website, includes links to IOS and Android apps.
Please Note: A Class Action Law Suit was filed against PositiveSingles and their parent company, Successful Match, in January 2012. The lawsuit was won by the plaintiff in 2014, but is being appealed. For details go to: http://tcattorney.typepad.com/techlaw/2012/01/successfulmatchcom-class-action-filed-alleging-unfair-competition-and-californias-consumers-legal-re.html
Other Herpes Dating Sites
Hwerks.com is a community exclusively for people with Herpes (HSV-1, HSV-2) and HPV. In addition to user profiles and dating, it has community features, groups, blogs, forums, photos, local and national social group and event listings, etc. They are supportive of local H social groups and social events. They are one of the less expensive herpes dating sites, but with fewer profiles than PositiveSingles.
H-ype.com – is a UK -based dating and community site for people with Herpes and HPV. Although most members are from the United Kingdom, there are also members from the US and other countries. H-YPE is an acronym for Herpes-Your Positive Experience. It offers herpsters the opportunity to communicate with others via email, winks, IM (instant messenger), chat rooms and forums. Local events are also planned.
There are a few other active herpes dating sites and apps, but to our knowledge, the ones listed here have the most members.
Herpes Social Groups
Many cities and regions all over the world have herpes social groups which have social events and activities where members can make friends in a safe and welcoming community. Although these groups are NOT dating services and are primarily for making new friends, many people do meet others who they end up dating, even getting married and having kids. Please see our page for state-by-state, country by country links for Herpes Social Groups.
Secret Facebook Groups for People with Herpes or HPV
There are many local, national and international Secret Facebook Groups for people with genital herpes (HSV-1, HSV-2) and HPV. Some of these groups are specifically for people who are looking to date others in the general H community. There are groups for all types of interests, including LGBTQ, Age-Group Segments, Christians, Asians, People of Color, and You-Name-It. Please see our page about Secret Facebook Groups for People with Genital Herpes.
Stay Away From these Deceptive Herpes Dating Sites
These sites below and many others are “private label affiliates” of PositiveSingles.com and are known to have used deceptive marketing practices and/or spam. For info, see Herpes Scams.
MPWH.com, MPWH.net, DatingHerpes.net, DatingWithHerpesorg.com, HerpesAndDating.net, HerpesAndYouDating.com, HerpesDate.org, HerpesFish.com, HerpesMeet.com, HerpesMingles.com, HerpesPal.com, HerpesPeople.com, Hmeet.com, HSinglesMatch.com, MPWH.net, MPWH.com, Singleherpes.com, STDfish.com, Stdloving.com, STDmatching.com, STDDateline.com.
Non-Herpes Dating Services
Many people with herpes have had success dating on larger, non-H dating services. Of course, you must always disclose your herpes status to your partners BEFORE anything intimate happens. Over 30% of adults in the US have some form of genital herpes (HSV-1, HSV-2). But MOST people with genital herpes don’t know that they have herpes, and they are still out there in the general dating pool. Also, a lot of people who do NOT have herpes are willing to consider dating someone who carries the herpes virus – after they learn the facts. After all, if you KNOW that you have herpes, you can take precautions to reduce the risk of spreading it. Since most people are unaware that they have herpes, they are not taking any precautions, and are more likely to spread it.
When posting personal ads on Non-H dating sites, some people choose to disclose their herpes status up front, while others prefer to wait. Some people place the numbers “437737” in their ads or in their searches to find others with Herpes. “437737” are the numbers on your telephone keypad that correspond with the letters in “HERPES”. Others just come out and say “Herpes” or “HSV+”, “HSV-1” or “HSV-2” in their ads.
Many people prefer to wait until a relationship looks like it might become intimate before disclosing their herpes status. Having “the talk” is always easier if you have already established a friendship with a potential partner and feel that you can trust them with sensitive personal information. Please read How to Tell Someone That You Have Herpes for tips on how to talk about herpes to potential partners.
Here are some of the most popular online dating services:
Match.com – The largest online dating service in the USA and Canada.
OKCupid.com – A popular site with both Free and Paid membership levels. Their parent company also owns Match.com
PlentyOfFish.com (POF) – Large, popular online dating service, which was once totally free. They are now offering “upgraded” paid membership plans with expanded features. The company is based in Canada.
Eharmony.com* – Has a “Compatibility Matching System” and seems to be more for people looking for long-term relationships and marriage rather than casual dating.
Craigslist – Free to post personal ads via classifieds. However, once you email someone they will have your email address. For privacy/security, create an email address that does not include your real name or company.
Herpes Dating Tips
Please read the following articles:
How to Tell Someone That You Have Herpes
When is the Best Time to Tell Someone I have Genital Herpes?
My Boyfriend Was Diagnosed with Genital Herpes. What Should I Do?